The Honeymoon Life

Neil and Michele McQuire married in our barn 2 months ago. If you’re joining me from Proverbs 31 devotions, welcome!

We live on a farm and have weddings in our barn, every weekend!  Marriage, love, weddings and honeymoon conversations are our life!

True love  on a wedding day  is breathtaking, but what’s more breathtaking-is true love after babies, sleepless nights and hard days turned into years.

Many couples struggle to keep their marriage aflame. Many wives tell me they have no interest in lovemaking, that romance isn’t alive in their marriage anymore. I say to them this, don’t allow that mindset for one second. We don’t want our spouse to look for other things to fulfill what only should be fulfilled by us.

It wasn’t always easy for me either, trust me. I struggled when our children were small and demands were constant.  But one day–everything changed. My mindset shifted.It was the day I decided to live The Honeymoon Life, it transformed our marriage.

It all started when this woman  told me the tragic end to her love story.  When she and her husband married, they couldn’t afford a honeymoon. Kids came and the money to do something special together just never seemed to be there. Her husband worked all the time, so for years she dreamed and planned for the trip she longed for with him—the perfect honeymoon.

When their last child was leaving for college, they finally set up their honeymoon trip. But something awful happened right before they were ready to leave. Her husband was tragically killed in a car accident. Her dreams were shattered.

With a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes, I stood by her feeling helpless to offer the right words. All I could say was, “I’m so sorry.”

Her story affected me deeply. Although my husband was still alive, I didn’t have the honeymoon of my dreams either.My heart sank as she told me the tragic end to her love story.

I didn’t want to pin my hopes on a fancy trip any more.

On that day I decided to live every day as if it were my honeymoon. Rather than a honeymoon trip, I wanted The Honeymoon Life.

I looked for ways to turn ordinary places into exotic destinations. I decided that lovemaking would be relished and not just endured.

We live on a farm with open fields and woods. The possibilities became endless for exotic destinations.

No trip around the world, no lavish hotel, nor any gourmet dish could have competed with that field, the picnic dinners and the way God changed my perspective.

From that day on, I chose the honeymoon life. Not just dreaming of it but living it every day. I’ve set my heart to cherish the simple things, like making my husband’s favorite foods and eating ALL meals together, going to bed at the same time, reading and praying together. Even mundane trips to the store together.

We’ve been living the honeymoon life for 21 years now and have been married for 36. Everything changed the day I made up my mind to live The Honeymoon Life. Last week at one of our weddings a couple saw us running in the rain together with arms locked. When we got to the barn they said, “You two look like you’re the newly weds!” Funny thing is, we feel that we are!

Ask God to help rekindle passion in your marriage, ask Him to help you have desire. Ask Him to take all hindrances away. Once you decide to change your mindset and start making plans for your adventures- desire will come, and The Honeymoon Life will begin.

My husband and I are officially going on our first honeymoon trip to Europe this August!

Past posts on marriage:

Marriage is Like Farming

Marriage’s Greatest Enemy 

A Wrecked Marriage Saved over Lunch

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My dear friend, Sharon Jaynes wrote this 14 Day Romance Challenge. You can order it through Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Would you like for me to pray for your marriage? Do you desire The Honeymoon Life?  Leave your name in the comment section. I’ll pray for you, and it will enter your name in a drawing to win this Romance Gift Set.

Dear Lord, give me the ability to live the honeymoon life with my husband. Help me to stop focusing on the what if’s of the future and to start focusing on loving to the fullest today. Help me not to have any regrets of how I’ve lived out my married life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

A Love Story–The Honeymoon Life Part 3/3

Dale and Sharon Glasgow-The Honeymoon Life-August 29, 2012

Part 1http://sharonglasgow.com/2012/08/a-love-story-fairy-tales-do-come-true-part-1-of-3/

Part 2http://sharonglasgow.com/2012/08/a-love-story-fairy-tales-do-come-true-part-2/

Now they were no different than couples of this day. They desired a honeymoon many miles away. But luxury was not afforded them, so they traveled far to a State Park cabin in the mountains by car.

Little needs be said of what happened that night for when two lovers join as one for the very first time, well—words fall short.

The honeymoon was soon over and they traveled back to start their life.

Time passed quickly. Dale finished his schooling and got a job in the big city. He worked hard to provide for his family. Babies came one by one and while Sharon nursed them, changed diapers, cooked and cleaned the house morning till night, she started to dream.

She dreamed of the day she would have a real honeymoon, the lavish kind she had read of–for the honeymoon days were long behind her. Life became an endless cycle of work; rebuilding their country house, mending fences to keep the animals in, taking care of the farm, nurturing and raising children, working and yet more working… Through all of this their romance took a hit: there was no time for fairytale love anymore.

Then, one day— Sharon met a woman who told her of the tragic end to her own love story. This woman’s beloved worked hard every day. They never had time off to play. For years she dreamed and planned for this trip she had always wanted, for they had never had the honeymoon of their dreams. Their last child was leaving and the honeymoon date set. But on this awful, awful day, she got a call that her husband had been killed, tragically. Her dream shattered, she never got the honeymoon that she had imagined.

This affected Sharon deeply, for she never wanted to live in regret that she never had the honeymoon she dreamt.

So, she decided that day to live every day, the honeymoon life ever after.

(Now at this point in the love story, Sharon and Dale had 4 adorable children, with one to come, and lived on a farm in the country.)

Just a few weeks later was Sharon and Dale’s anniversary.

Sharon loved Dale with all her heart, so she went before the Lord and inquired of Him. She said, “He is Yours. I do not know how long my days will be with him. But this I know, I trust You. I trust You that when our days are gone, I will have no regrets. Teach me now, how to be a lover of You first and by loving You, I will know how to love him fully every day, especially when the days are hard, the storms rage and the sun sets at the close of our life.” On that day, the Lord gave her peace that flooded her entire being. A scripture from the Bible came to to her mind as she arose that day in prayer, Proverbs Chapter 31. She read it and decided to live it. Strength and assurance arose in her spirit from that day there after.

She wanted their anniversary to be one that Dale would never forget for who knows if you will ever have another after. What would he not expect but never forget?

And the idea came, a picnic far over and through the field- with his favorite foods and his wife alone, doing things he could never have expected. . .

No trip to yonder place, no lavish hotel nor gourmet dish in all the world could compete with this field, a picnic dinner and the power of what happened.

From that day on they lived the honeymoon life. Not just dreaming of it, but living it every day ever after. The simple things became cherished, like eating meals together, going to bed together, praying together, reading books together and even mundane trips to pick up supplies were always spent together.

Yesterday, August 29th was the 31st anniversary of Sharon and Dale’s marriage. They celebrated their 16th year of The Honeymoon Life!

So this is their love story and it is still being written.

When their life in this age comes to an end, they will confidently be able to say, ours was the most beautiful love story we could ever have lived–because the most High God started it, was in it and completed it.

Dale and Sharon Glasgow married August 29, 1981
Snapshot taken by attendee. No formal photo taken.

I did marry a preacher man! http://sharonglasgow.com/2012/08/my-preacher-man/

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