Sunday morning fights. Ugh…
Kids fighting, shoes missing, and Dale and I who are usually in crazy love- nearly ready for separation before we walk inside the church on Sunday morning. Yikes!
This past Sunday wasn’t a lot different. I wanted to go in late and leave early so as not to touch any of the “sick” folks carrying that horrible flu bug. Yeah it’s the one with the high fever and has been going around lately.
I’m speaking at a retreat this coming weekend and can’t get sick. I gave my rules before entering… “When the last song starts- we leave. Agreed? We can’t talk to or touch ANYONE.”
The last song started… I texted him to remind him of our plan and asked for the keys. He didn’t give them! I gave him the look. It didn’t work.
By the time the car doors shut we were arguing.
Why do I do that? The poor man had barely done anything wrong and I couldn’t keep my mouth shut. Have you ever had a fight so uncalled for that by the end of the day you can’t remember why you were so mad?!
Oh my goodness- my fight with Dale was just wrong.
That afternoon I was opening my mail and got a package from one of my most precious friends and prayer partner, Karen Ehman. It was her newly released book, Keep it Shut.
How appropriate was that? I needed to learn to keep it shut and here was the tool to help me.
I started to read. Oh my goodness… the book is full of wisdom and practical help for mouths like mine. I don’t know about you but I need to learn to Keep it Shut!
Here are a few of her guidelines for choosing words more wisely.
1. Trade Places. Imagine you are hearing rather than speaking your words. How would you feel if what you are about to say
were addressed to you?
2. Leave some things left unsaid.
3. Temper your tone. What we say may not be wrong, but if the tone is off, harm can be caused and the meaning misconstrued.
4. Consider your countenance.
5. Believe the best before assuming the worst!
6. Don’t get historical, rattling every offense off the person has done.
7. Choose Your Timing!
You’ve got read this book. I’ve only got two copies to give away.
Dale and I made up before the night was over… We’re in love again. Thank You Lord. I learned several invaluable lessons on keeping my mouth shut! I hope you win- so that you can too!
You can even take a “test drive” and read a chapter- for free! Just click here! The book is about the power of our words in every area of our life.
To enter to win the book, just describe a situation in the comments below that makes it hard for you to “keep it shut.” If you’re in a hurry- just say, “I’m in!” I’ll announce the winner next week!
“Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24
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